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A Day Out

3/4/2012

 
We had a slightly unexpected outing today: it was my dad's birthday and Ben and I went with my family to the Henry Ford Museum for a few hours in the afternoon.  Grandma Lila was with Mom and Dad Turner (and Jenny) and they went out shopping and to visit Grandma Turner, so she had a slightly different outing; but I think we all had a pretty enjoyable day.  

Ben and I went to church, got McDonald's for lunch, navigated out to the museum (and accidentally overshot our turn, which got us a little turned around in Dearborn for a while!), wandered around the automobile portion of the museum's exhibits with my family, held hands and read exhibit boards together, kept track of Jonathan (his favorite vehicle was an old schoolbus Ben says Grandpa Wilfred would've liked to see since it was the first model of the buses that would become Grandpa and Grandma's real livelihood down the line), came back to eat Chinese food with my family and had a very pleasant afternoon.  I think some of my siblings are still worried that I'm okay, so it was good for all of us to peacefully visit the museum and come home for dinner, just like usual.  Or what's often been usual for events like Dad's birthday.

When we got back to my family's house, Katherine and Ben played a game of chess.  Back before Ben and I were married, Katherine would play a game with him nearly every night and she is quite a good player these days.  She says she's been playing "expert" on the computer, but it's not as much fun as Ben: "It takes too long and it isn't as hard," was her review.  It was such a nice day.

Ben and I sat and watched a short movie at the museum this afternoon and Ben said to me, "You know, I think in the entire time we've known each other, this is the first time we've gone to a movie.  How'd we manage that?"

I guess there was always so much to do that if we'd tried dating by the usual dinner and movie method, we'd still be on our third or fourth date.  Maybe.  Our method of doing all our normal things together is probably what allowed us to decide to get married and get there within a year; otherwise, it probably would've taken us five or six!

Ben wrote me an email the other night that was the kind of thing I've heard people just beginning to go out with someone often write.  It made me smile, both because it's pretty hard not to if someone loves you that much; and because I know he really does and this isn't just a new crush.  It's taken a year of knowing each other and three months of marriage before he's getting mushy like that; and that's the kind of foundation that has the staying power to last seventy years.  He didn't marry me because I kiss well (how would he know?  I didn't kiss him!) and he didn't marry me because I'm a supermodel, and he didn't marry me because I'm such an interesting person who goes on all kinds of adventures. He married me knowing an "adventure" would probably be an unexpected day at the museum with Chinese food for dinner and he would have to teach me what kissing was like and I'll certainly never be a model.  Just as I married him without going to the movies and without flowers and chocolates, but with a very good notion that he's the kind of man who can stand beside me in a hospital and keep me smiling even when things hurt.

If you were to ask me, "Is marriage what you expected?" I'd have to say not exactly.  These last three months have been so busy and so much has changed and there has been so much to get used to that it hasn't been quite what I pictured it.  But certain things have been much better.  I would never have gotten so much pleasure from a short trip to a museum before, even though I enjoyed going in the past.  Being married to Ben makes small ordinary things special, probably because we're doing them together.  It made our day out very nice indeed.
Elizabeth link
3/5/2012 06:28:44 am

BEN?!?!?! MUSHY?!?!?!?!? :D :D All the way to the bottom of my mushy little heart I believe that mush has a time and place. Only I find that WHEN I like to see it it's usually when I do know there is a lot of substance behind it. I think a lot of people's idea of love is the mushy bits. To me, I think that's more what comes FROM love, if that makes any sense.

And even though I was of this opinion before you and Ben, and Leah and Benjamin, the more I saw, the more I realized movies and dinner are pretty much wasted time if you want to really get to know someone. I mean, you can learn something about someone no matter where you go, and you would learn about their opinions and principles by talking about whatever movie you went to see, but it's a whole lot easier when you see them doing what they do every day. And you know how people always talking about how you should live together before marriage because then you will get to know if you can live together? I believe you should learn how you can live together, but not by living together. ;) By doing everyday things together.

It was nice to have everyone come to Henry Ford. I ended up taking a trip down memory lane with Nana. :D It was so amazing to me to see a history of something that I have lived part of. It made me think that a lot of the history that I've read only tells you a little bit of everything, and if you want a complete picture you've got to dig. :D

I also realized that I wanted to be with everyone at once. I wanted to hear what EVERYONE thought of the exhibit, not just Nana. :D We need the Leverage ear buds. :D

-Me

Emily
3/5/2012 09:11:49 pm

Just wanted to say good thoughts from you and from Elizabeth.


Leah
3/12/2012 08:34:13 am

Hey Lauren,

Benjamin and I were really happy to see you both. It was a really pleasant afternoon.

Jonathan also got really excited about the hot dog car that you see right when you go into the museum :)

Lauren
3/13/2012 06:24:35 am

Aw, I bet he did! Sorry to have missed that!

I was sorry we couldn't see you yesterday, but it's a good thing you didn't come over: Ben was definitely not well and it wasn't really until this morning that he was back to normal. I have washed so many things in this house the past two days...

Laura
3/22/2012 11:23:14 am

"Being married...makes small ordinary things special, probably because we're doing them together." Yes! You’ve hit the nail on the head. Before, we were only doing things as “half” of ourselves. Now that we are united with our other half, experiences are complete. :]

"Is marriage what you expected?" "Not exactly" indeed (I agree!)! And this little soul has never been so happy to have been proved incorrect. :]

Lauren
3/26/2012 09:15:30 am

Me too! ;-)


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